Life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. We interview for a great job, and we make it to the final round of interviews, but then we don’t get that job.
We find the perfect course that will set us up for our new career, but the course is full and won’t be offered again for two years. I could go on, but I am sure you understand the point.
This type of life situation can seem so devastating when it happens. We have an emotional response, and that’s normal. We are disappointed that this didn’t work out the way we wanted.
However, this disappointment only becomes a setback if we continue to focus on that disappointment. We create the setback if we focus only on what could have been instead of creating what can be.
Whether you believe in ‘meant to be’ or not, I think it is a healthy way to frame disappointment. If I accept that what I wanted was not meant to be, I can move on. I can shift my focus and call the next play to move the ball forward.
The next time that something doesn’t seem to go your way, try to reframe your disappointment and move on. Don’t let your disappointment become a setback.