Did you read that title and wonder what I was talking about? I am referencing the words in that wonderful Timothy Leary passage that I shared in the previous post in which he urges us to remember that “everyone carries a piece of the puzzle”.
I have been thinking about that and reflecting on our society’s obsession with ‘fitting in’ and following the script of what you ‘should’ do.
Fitting in and following the crowd is so normalized that it shows up in our conversations without us noticing. This past summer, I overheard someone talking about a teenager entering high school and the need to ‘up her makeup game’. Is hiding perceived physical imperfections really the most important focus for someone entering high school?
In The Role of Me, I discussed that our biggest obstacle to change can be the fact that we play a carefully crafted character each day. As we attempt to ‘fit in’, we don the mask and choose the actions that fit our chosen persona.
Do your plans for 2018 reflect accepting not only Where You Are, but also accepting who you are?
That’s how I interpret Leary’s words; carrying our piece of the puzzle means being who we really are.
Simple statement but I know this isn’t easy. We often have no idea what that means. We are busy with our lives, including maintaining our persona, and we don’t have time to focus on who we really are.
Even if we have a notion of who we really are, it can feel risky to expose that, so we set it aside with a vague promise to ourselves to think about it ‘later.’
Here’s my question for today: what if we simply decide to try to always carry our piece of the puzzle, and be ourselves?
Even if we don’t know what part of us IS the true piece of the puzzle, what if we commit to at least acknowledging and living the puzzle pieces that we think might be ours?
Did you drop your piece (or pieces) of the puzzle; or are you simply ignoring them?