Some obstacles to change are easy to identify. Not having enough time because life demands get in the way, or not having enough money to pay for courses. Obstacles; but easily noticed.
With the introduction of the Four Tendencies framework, you might see how your old behaviour patterns (habits) are an obstacle and that you can use your tendency to choose new habits that can help you change.
What is less obvious is that the biggest obstacle to change can be our mind. Even if our mind accepts that we want to make a major change, and agrees that we want that new career (or other major change), it might decide “you can’t do this because that’s not who you are“.
That’s the point of Accepting Risk and while some people might think they don’t have this obstacle, I think we all do.
Without acknowledging it, we actually play a carefully crafted character every day. We use our “I am” statements to define the ‘role of me’.
When I play ‘me’ each day, I not only don the mask of my persona: I choose my costumes, settings, and props. I also choose the actions that fit this role.
That’s the obstacle to change: I choose actions that fit THIS role.
Your risk assessment framework is acting to ensure you stay true to your role of current ‘me’.
I love this image. I see new me on the right side trying desperately to get a foothold against the entrenched concept of current me.
In reflecting on this idea, I wonder about those times when change happens to us (High-Cost Times). Are we forced to modify the ‘role of me’ on the fly and the resistance is easier to overcome than when we try to initiate change? Do parts of the ‘role of me’ fall away more easily during a crisis?
Whether you agree that your ‘role of me’ influences your day to day life or don’t agree, perhaps just observe through that lens. Are there influences in what you wear, what you eat and drink, whether you exercise, what type of exercise you choose, the business, career and social decisions you make?
If you can see any influence, you can start to identify where your ‘role of me’ can be an obstacle to changing to your ‘future me’.
To be honest, I am comfortable with and good playing ‘current me’. I am not sure I want to play the role of ‘future me’. Perhaps someone else is more suited to that role.